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Three years ago, you were with me, the day my nephew was born. I guess I'll always think of you on his birthday. We woke up with the news that my sister in law was in labor.. I remember that day as if it was yesterday. 

One year later

A year to heal and discover the new me. 

A year to grieve... A year to embrace a lot of changes in my life.

I made it.

As I celebrate the one year anniversary of my divorce, I realize how giving away everything that reminded me of my ex was a great decision. It helped me to move on faster than what I thought. I realized that besides all the issues and obvious behaviors I disapproved of him, the main reason I chose to get divorced was because he didn't love me the way I wanted to be loved. See... I grew up in a family with values, who care, respect and love each other no matter what. I couldn't understand his way of "loving me" by being crazy possessive, jealous, and by cheating on me... to me that was not love. Maybe for him it was, maybe he grew up surrounded by those behaviors where love was supposed to be portrayed by someone (man or woman) putting up with infidelity and constantly forgiving all types of disrespectful behaviors. Maybe that's his meaning of love. But that's not mine. And I'm ok with that, I'm not sorry for being different or for being honest and respectful. I'm happy with who I am, and I'm happy for deciding to divorce my ex because at the end of the day, we wanted different things in life. This year was hard, because I actually really loved him... for good or for bad, he was the man of my dreams until I started to realize that he wasn't... and that I had made a mistake. But I learned. Now, I have more experience and finally can see the red flags. 

Divorce was the right answer. It gave both of us another chance to find happiness elsewhere. There is no reason why someone should stay in an unhappy marriage, even if there are kids involved. You should always aim for happiness. I choose to be happy and have no regrets for that.

Time heals the wounds, forgiveness is possible and happiness is worth the struggle.